Glimmer of Light

It would seem that finally things are beginning to show signs of improvement, albeit slowly. We have all been through the strangest of times!

Here at Wilton, everything is well set up to operate in line with every Covid-related safety guideline, so appointments are as safe as can be. Meanwhile I have had my first vaccine and am therefore safer – and safer to be with, apparently.

Most importantly, over and above following guidelines, you must only do what feels right for you. If you would like to talk over the phone to reassure yourself that this is a safe space, asking any questions you have, that is perfectly reasonable. I’m ready when you are.

Take care and stay safe!

Action For Happiness

In these difficult times, proactive ideas to help us manage our wellbeing are more important than ever. That’s why I’m mentioning Action For Happiness here. They are a charity that offer constructive ways to be kinder to ourselves and each other. From daily prompts to webinars, they are an excellent source of encouragement.

Slowly Away

Despite a lot of uncertainty all around us, the steps taken to allow for face to face work with clients are working well so far. As well as the measures detailed previously (see Return to Work Confirmed, August 3rd), Wilton Centre now requests that everyone wear a mask in communal areas. If anyone has concerns about COVID-19 safety, or any other concerns, please call to discuss. Stay Safe!

Reception To Reopen

I’m delighted to confirm that Reception at Wilton Centre is scheduled to reopen at the beginning of September, so I am available for everyone from Monday September 7th.  Please contact me to make an appointment via telephone/text: 07896 152130, or email:

Please refer to the previous post regarding slight differences that I have made for your safety.  Wilton Centre Management have also been very cautious, so communal areas are carefully managed and cleaned.  I look forward to hearing from you when you feel ready to make an appointment.  Meanwhile, take extra care of yourself.

Kind regards!

Return To Work Confirmed

I’m delighted to confirm that, all things being well, I’ll be returning to my office in Wilton Centre this week.  Until Reception reopens, hopefully within a few weeks, I cannot realistically see external clients, but this will allow time to settle back in and establish the safest means of working so that we can start with minimal disruption when the time is right.

I have taken advice on safe working practice, including:

  • Made space in the office, so we can keep a safe distance
  • Removed any crossover risks such as tissues, notebooks and drinks – please bring everything you might need with you
  • The window will be left open as often as possible – so you might want to bring an extra layer
  • Provided hand sanitiser and a strict cleaning regime to minimise risk
  • Cancellations will not be charged for, to avoid any pressure to attend with COVID- like symptoms

Hopefully this background work, as cold and practical as it must be, will create an environment that remains calm, welcoming and safe.  Watch this space for further details, and please don’t hesitate to get in touch with any questions or concerns.


Hokey Cokey Approach to Emotional Processing

According to research by Sonja Lyubomirsky and colleagues*, reliving our highest achievements and our happiest moments mentally, ie internally, can enhance the pleasure.  Meanwhile, when we experience the inevitable lows, it serves us better to externalise these.  This can be done by talking to someone, or writing down our feelings.  Ruminating on these is found to be unhelpful.  So, your practice for the next little while, if you choose to accept it, is to pay attention to how you’re feeling and do the hokey-cokey: You keep the positive thoughts in, the negative thoughts out… apologies for the awful vehicle for this message, but it’s going to stick, isn’t it?!

*(The Costs and Benefits of Writing, Talking and Thinking about Life’s Triumphs and Defeats, Lyubomirsky, Sousa and Dickerhoof,University of California)

We’re all doing our best

It’s important to recognise that everyone is doing their best – your precious self included.  Hollie McNish read a beautiful poem on the latest edition of The Verb (Radio 3), called ‘Our Own Way’, which I encourage you to find: for those of you against the clock, or against that much poetry in one go, it starts at 42:50.  McNish makes the point far more eloquently and entertainingly than I could, that this is not about achieving great things, it’s about getting to the finish line in as few pieces as possible.  As Mother Teresa said, ‘Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.’

Small things that make a big difference can include stopping to enjoy your favourite cuppa, listening to nature, wearing your softest woolie, or reading a special poem.  I’m sure you have your own ideas; remember to enrich the experience further by recognising what you’re doing, and by acknowledging that you’re doing your best….

Contentment v Happiness

Here’s a link to a fascinating article from the Greater Good Science Center.  Written by Daniel Cordaro, it offers an opportunity to step away from what Alain de Botton calls ‘Anxiety Status’ and all the other methods of torture provided by comparison, be that comparison with other people, other times or other choices.

COVID-19 Lockdown

During the current lockdown I am unable to work with clients.  If you are searching for psychotherapeutic support, however, please get in touch.  Sometimes just a supportive email can change our outlook from helplessness to feeling encouraged to make a change for ourselves.